Thursday 27 October 2016

Slow Day


Today, the wind is blowing, the bones are aching, the chill is definitely in the air, but I'm slow. On a day like today, when autumn really is giving it over, I'd figure I'd be fidgeting with getting things done, getting warm and dry, but I'm slow. And man, it feels good to be slow.

I'm probably coming down with something. The kids are sick so my turn is waiting. Nonetheless, after weeks of being on edge, abrasive and unable to focus, this slowness is precious to me. I can rest. I can think. I will not push. I will wait.

I'm not part of the pounding surf, the gusty trees, the rain-soaked slap in the face. I'm a tiny harbour with no wind. The storm will get here, I'm pretty sure, but for now I'll be still.


Friday 14 October 2016

Finding "home" at the Library

 Public libraries all over the world have regular visitors who do not have permanent homes. Libraries are warm, comfortable places that are open to all and can provide hours of engagement, as well as a place to connect with necessary social services.

The library is also full of stories, true or almost true, about people who are homeless, or by people who love someone who is.

Real stories: Travels with Lizbeth by Lars Eighner.

As Lars wrote, “When I began writing this account I was living under a shower curtain in a stand of bamboo in a public park. I did not undertake to write about homelessness, but wrote what I knew, as an artist paints a still life, not because he is especially fond of fruit, but because the subject is readily at hand.” This is Lars Eighner’s account of one man’s experience of homelessness, a story of physical survival, and the triumph of the artistic spirit in the face of enormous adversity.



Humans of New York by Brandon Stanton.

Brandon Stanton set out to single-handedly create a photographic census of New York City. Armed with his camera, he began crisscrossing the city, covering thousands of miles on foot, all in his attempt to capture ordinary New Yorkers in the most extraordinary of moments. The result of these efforts was “Humans of New York,” a vibrant blog and, with four hundred color photos, Humans of New York is the book inspired by the blog.





Looking Glass Brother by Peter von Ziegesar.

After a string of affairs, author Peter’s father left his mother and remarried. Several stepchildren, including Little Peter, entered von Ziegesar’s life from the looking glass of his father’s new family. Little Peter was an angelic and brilliant young boy who spiraled down during adolescence to become one more homeless man living on the street. In this big-hearted memoir, Peter von Ziegesar tells us about the responsibility he feels for his brother, a man with the same name as his, but a man who lives a desperate and very different life.



No House to Call My Home: Love, Family, and Other Transgressions by Ryan Berg.

Ryan Berg tells stories from the frontlines of LGBTQ homelessness and foster care. Berg, a young social worker, faced young people who have battled extreme poverty, experienced unbalanced opportunities, structural racism, and homophobia.







Junior Fiction: Paper Things by Jennifer Jacobson.
Told in an open, authentic voice, this nuanced story of hiding in plain sight may have young readers thinking about homelessness in a whole new way. When Ari’s mother died four years ago, she had two fi nal wishes: that Ari and her older brother, Gage, would stay together always, and that Ari would go to Carter, the middle school for gifted students. Suffering in foster care, the siblings leave and try to make it on their own, but one of these promises may have to be broken.


Crenshaw by Katherine Applegate.

 In her first children’s novel since The One and Only Ivan, winner of the Newbery Medal, Katherine Applegate delivers an unforgettable and magical story about family, friendship, and resilience. Jackson and his family have fallen on hard times. His parents, his little sister, and their dog may have to live in their minivan. Crenshaw is a large, outspoken and imaginary cat. He has come back into Jackson’s life to help him. In unexpected ways, friends matter, whether real or imaginary.




Laura Bilyea is a librarian in Mississauga Library System

Originally published in Tough Times

Refugee Readings


As Syrian refugees are welcomed to Peel Region, many Peel residents are reaching out to help with food and clothing donations or sponsorship. Libraries want to help, too. Your local library has books for adults and children in Arabic, plus resources in print, audio and on-line to help Arabic speakers learn English. Mississauga Library System runs free children’s programs intended for the whole family, such as Welcome to Canada story-time, for learning new words and Canadian concepts, Conversation Circles for adults, employment workshops for newcomers, settlement workers are in the libraries and will connect customers to the social services they need.

Want to learn more? Here are books in Mississauga libraries that can help deepen our understanding of life as a refugee.

City of thorns: Nine lives in the world’s largest refugee camp by Ben Rawlence

With deep compassion, Rawlence interweaves the stories of nine individuals to show what life is like in the camp and to sketch the wider political forces that keep the refugees trapped there.



From bombs to books: The remarkable stories of refugee children and their families at an exceptional Canadian school by David Starr
Starr shares the stories of his students and their parents, and tells about the teachers and others who dedicate themselves to making a difference in their lives. His students are hopeful and resilient despite the traumas they have faced.





Frontier Justice: the global refugee crisis and what to do about it by Andy Lamey.

 An examination of “temporary” refugee camps that are becoming a permanent feature of world crisis zones.






Originally published in Tough Times

An Ode to Spare time

Motherhood has more benefits, blessings, than can be counted. This is a true statement. I know that becoming a mother has been a great boon to me as a human being. But, as I move into seventeen years as a mother, I am beginning to identify one particular deficiency in my life.

This issue is with the ownership of my brain.

Now one would think that with the many demands on your mind that having three children would require, your mind would hone, sharpen and become the perfect tool for solving all of life's problems. Because that's my job, right? I resolve all conflicts, remove all clothing stains, fix all baking disasters and remain beatific throughout. Always.

I'm glad you don't agree. There's too much pressure in that.

However, between working full-time and being a mother and wife, I do find that having time for my own thinking, my own creativity, my own aspirations, is compromised. It's no one's fault. It's just that "my brain is full" before I start. (Yes, I'm picturing Gary Larson's Far Side, too, but found out I can't post it)

Clearly, I need a bigger brain. I'll work on that in my spare time.